The Guiltshift™
You know something needs to change.
But guilt and the fear of wasting your time keeps pulling you back.
The GuiltShift is a six-week live virtual closed group experience for high-achieving women who are ready to understand why setting limits, choosing themselves, and making necessary changes can feel so wrong—even when they know those decisions are right.
By the end of this group experience, you will have a framework to help you identify when guilt is influencing your decision-making. You’ll gain practical tools for creating space in real-time before you respond to requests for your time or resources, and strengthen your ability to make decisions from discernment rather than urgency.
Begins September 15, 2026
6 weekly closed group virtual sessions
Investment: $600$450
Join the September Founding Cohort
This may be for you if...
You have done the therapy, reflection, journaling, or boundary work, but want help practicing what comes next.
You know you are over-extending yourself, but still feel pulled to step in.
Someone else’s disappointment can make a reasonable decision suddenly feel selfish.
You are eager for community and feel ready to do this work with women who understand what it is like to be the dependable one.
After reserving your spot
Meet with me briefly
After signing up, we’ll schedule a brief call to talk through what’s bringing you to the group and what you’re hoping will shift. This is just a conversation. If the group format, topics, or timing doesn’t align with where you are, your payment will be returned and I’ll point you toward other supports, like individual therapy, that may serve you better.Practice between sessions
You’ll receive guided exercises, reference tools, and access to the group discussion space so the work does not end when the weekly session does.
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Reserve Your Spot Now
This group is limited to eight women to protect the depth of discussion each week.
Only $150 deposit due at sign up. The remaining balance due by program start date. Payment is non-refundable after the registration call to confirm your participation.
Across Six Weeks, You will Learn
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Using your pre-work reflection, you will examine a recent situation where insight alone did not lead to a different choice. Together, we will name the gap between knowing what you needed and being able to act on it as part of the guilt cycle rather than evidence that you failed.
In this session, you will:
Identify where guilt began influencing a recent decision.
Understand why insight does not always produce immediate behavior change.
Begin distinguishing the voice of guilt from the voice of discernment.
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This session explores the personal cost of automatically returning to the role that keeps everyone else comfortable. Using your own experience as a case study, you will learn to recognize the repair reflex while it is happening—even when you are still learning how to respond differently.
In this session, you will:
Identify how the repair reflex appears in your thoughts, body, and behavior.
Examine what automatic responses costs your time, energy, and existing commitments.
Practice catching the urge to fix before immediately acting on it.
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This session focuses on regulation, reflection, and how to check your capacity before responding. You will learn practical ways to slow the decision-making process and consider what is influencing your answer. We will also explore the difference between the quiet direction of discernment and the loud urgency of guilt.
In this session, you will:
Practice a regulation tool that helps interrupt an urgency-driven response.
Use a capacity check before accepting a responsibility or commitment.
Identify questions that help you distinguish guilt, fear, obligation, and discernment
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When you stop rescuing, explaining, or carrying what others have come to expect from you, you may suddenly become “the opp” in someone else’s version of the story. The pushback can feel heavy when are no longer participating in the role that kept the old dynamic intact.
In this session, you will:
Identify the reactions and narratives that make you most likely to abandon your decision.
Practice challenging negative thoughts about yourself and abilities
Create a plan for remaining connected to your decision when guilt becomes urgent.
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Returning to the familiar pattern can bring genuine relief.
The immediate discomfort may disappear and the relief can make the old response feel like the right decision— even when resentment, exhaustion, or self-criticism eventually follows.
In this session, you will:
Recognize the temporary relief that can follow over-functioning or guilt-driven repair.
Distinguish immediate emotional relief from sustainable resolution.
Reflect on what the familiar response resolves temporarily and what remains unaddressed.
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This community-guided session will address the questions, roadblocks, and patterns that surfaced throughout the workshop, while helping you identify how to continue strengthening discernment beyond the six-week experience.
In this session, you will:
Identify where you recognized or interrupted the guilt cycle during the workshop.
Review the tools that were most helpful in creating space for discernment.
Develop a personal practice for continuing the work over the next 30 days.
Imagine what’s possible.
There comes a moment when the life you have worked so hard to build asks for something different of you.
Nothing may be visibly falling apart. But the strength to care for everyone around you, show up at work, keep the family connected, stay up with your friends, and handle what needs to be done isn’t coming as easy as it did before.
You have carried responsibilities assigned to you for as long as you can remember. Now, the weight is getting old—and so is being overlooked for everything it takes to carry it.
You are beginning to question the roles, relationships, and expectations that once made you feel valuable. You know you need more support, more space, or a different way of living—but every attempt to change brings guilt with it. You return to the familiar version of yourself because disappointing someone feels harder than disappointing yourself.
The struggle is rarely a lack of awareness. You already know what needs to change. The harder part has been staying with your decision once guilt begins telling you that choosing yourself makes you selfish, disloyal, ungrateful, or irresponsible.
A Community of Learning and Support
In between sessions, you will have exclusive access to discussion groups for questions and further discussion.
Resources and Exercises
All of your sessions will be supported by exercises and reference documents that you can use to dive more deeply into the material.